The career question is an important one. But I’ve discovered a question that’s more important: what kind of person do I want to be?

Not answering that fundamental question is like not planting a seed and still expecting something to grow. So, what kind of person do you want to be?

What kind of person do you want to be?

Here’s an exercise to try:

  1. Take a sheet of paper and draw a line down the middle.
  2. At the top of each column, write a name of someone whose life you truly admire (so you should have two names total). These names could be anyone from saints, family members, friends, mentors, teachers, or well-known leaders.
  3. Under that, list descriptions of that person. What qualities and actions make you look up to them?
  4. Are there any similarities between the two lists? Are there any qualities you see that tug at your heart a bit and make you think, “Wow, I wish I was like that”? Go through the list and circle 2-4 qualities that you want to be remembered for if someone did this exercise with your name at the top.

I want to be devoted and kind and honest. I can be that person in so many different contexts, while working many different kinds of jobs, living in different cities. The goal is to look back on my life and smile, knowing I was devoted, kind, and honest.

I want to be devoted and kind and honest.

My job as Vocations Director is a context in which those characteristics thrive, but I could be in this position and still not be those qualities. See how who you want to be is the horse that leads the cart?

Knowing what kind of person you want to be is the first step in discerning how you want to spend your time each day. It becomes your mantra in everyday situations, no matter where you are or what you’re doing. “Devoted. Kind. Honest.” Use these qualities as a filter during your discernment always asking the question, “Will doing [this] bring me closer to the kind of person I want to be?” If not, then leave the option behind.

Comment below with qualities you’d like to see developed in your life!